FUUUUUUCK! Girl, what you do to me Twisting me with your hands and tongue Taking my insides and turning them around Upside down & downside up
FUCK! Girl, what did you do? Leaving my heart here on the ground Bleeding, beat up pound for pound Didn’t even look back As you walked away.
FUUUUUUCK! Inside you, melting Hard as steel, hot as lava I’ve got ya In my hands, by the heart Fires burn, Infernos spark
FUCK! This shit. Whatever we had was done Done over and no fun Took me heart, hurt my head The joke we called love is dead.
Fuuuuuuck! Oh fuck! This seesaw battle Back and forth Mad Hatter In see through lingerie Fuck this fuuuuuck Let’s do it again
A Shared Surprise Tiffany is home when she gets a visit from her neighbor while enjoying some sexy chat with her boyfriend. She gets the idea that watching the two of them would get him really hot. Time to share her surprise.
This was a question posted on Twitter a while back and I’ve seen a few people ask it now and then all around. I thought I’d give my answer here. This obviously is not exhaustive or a professional opinion; just my thoughts.
Making friends as an adult is not easy. Heck, making friends as a kid isn’t easy. Yet, ahhh yes, yet. Yet, it can be as simple as sitting next to the right person and then suddenly you’ve got a new best friend. It can seem like making friends is a magical, random act the universe creates; much like the Big Bang or life crawling out of primordial ooze. I personally don’t think it’s as bad as that. Can it be magical? Absolutely! Random? Sometimes. Once in a galactic timeline phenomena? Not so much. For this post I will be talking about making friends IRL in real life. This is not to say friends outside of face to face are not real friends just that this will be my focus in this post.
While making friends can be difficult, it’s really not all that hard. It takes some getting out of your comfort zone. Here are some things I think it takes to make friends as an adult.
Getting out of the house is crucial to making friends. Making friends while just staying at home is very difficult. Not only because finding people is difficult but because you don’t get to see or show as much of people and yourself.
Get out of the house. Go places. Do things. Now you may wonder where do you go? Go places you would want to go. Do things you’d regularly do or things you want to do. What about going with people? Well that is okay too. Yes, you can make friends while being out with friends and you can make friends by yourself. The thing about friendship and making friends is that it is a mix of intention and instinct, a purposeful randomness.
#2. Talk to People
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It’s really hard to be friends with people if you don’t talk to them. So yes, once you meet them, you have to talk to them. This isn’t as hard as it may seem. You don’t need a full on conversation, at first, to talk to someone. Small talk will do. I’ve seen various variations of ‘I don’t want small talk, let’s discuss the deep things in life’ on social media. If I don’t know who you are, why would I care about what you think about deep issues? I don’t want to know your personal history or to go over your childhood traumas if we just met. Small talk is a way to get to know someone. To get a general feel for them. To check out their vibe. Also, it can be a way to just pass some time. Not everyone you meet or interact with is friendship material. Acquaintances can be good too.
#3. Have places you do 1 & 2 regularly
You know when you go somewhere and someone walks in and the people there know the guy’s name, know her favorite drink, just seem genuinely glad to see that person? Yeah. That’s somebody that goes to that place regularly. A regular, even. Is that person friends with the workers? Maybe, maybe not, the point is they are seen as friendly and they have people they associate with in a friendly way. When you are seen as friendly and associate with people in a friendly way it is easier to actually make friends. And you don’t have to go to a place with the intention of making friends with staff or anything, just be friendly. Smile, say hello.
Now you may be asking, “How is going to the grocery store every week going to get me friends?” And it might not, directly. I mean you could be standing in line and talking to the cashier and end up talking to someone in line and boom best friends but yeah not likely. What you will do is build up friendly habits. You have a ready made, captive audience in which you can easily be friendly to and will be at least cordial back to you. Making friends like everything else is easier with practice. What you want to do is put yourself in a place and position for friendships to happen. If you have trouble making friends the easiest way for that to happen is to become friends with a person who finds it easy to make friends. Those people are usually hanging out with friends so to meet them you have to be at a place where friends hang out and you can naturally be introduced.
In the end making friends is all about being a friend. The best way to make a friend is to be a friend. Be the kind of person you’d want to hang out with, be the kind of person other people want to hang out with. Want to be friends with someone? Ask them. Do things friends do. Think about what you want from a friendship. What are you willing to put in it to get that? What are you expecting from the other person(s)? Evaluate those expectations from yourself and others and see if they’re realistic. Can you do that? Can and will other people do that? If not reprioritize. If so, go and do them. Making friends is both hard and not so hard. It’s a matter of will and luck. You never know who you might bump into and come together, but you’ve got to do the bumping to ever find out.
A few posts that you might like that are related to this are:
Dating Is Hard – A post I wrote on how hard it is dating these days. Being An Ally – A post on how to be a good ally to a friend.
Tiffany is stuck at home during the summer because of the pandemic. She can’t see her boyfriend and a girl has needs. Sexting can only satisfy so much. Her old high school friend is home from school; maybe she can help keep the boredom away. Hmmm. Boyfriend and girl friend? Things could get interesting. Who doesn’t like surprises, especially when they’re shared between friends?
A Shared Surprise is an erotic short story that explores what happens when a secret is exposed. Hot, steamy and explicit. Enjoy A Shared Surprise now.
“The lilacs near the cottage are especially lovely during the early summer. Mother and I …”
He droned on but I really wasn’t paying much attention. I hardly ever did. And certainly didn’t need to. A well timed “uh huh” and “oh really” was more than enough to keep my end of the conversation going. After all I was little more than window dressing, a showpiece for his arm.
'Lilac, like love, makes no distinction.
It will open for anyone.'
“You were splendid. Everyone just adored you; in fact several ladies inquired …”
There was no better compliment for him than jealousy over me. The more they wanted to be me, the more of me he wanted. What I wanted? Well that never mattered. Not then nor now.
'… the city lilacs
release their sweet, wild perfume
then bow down, heavy with rain.'
Some days I cry.
A flash fiction piece for d’VerseProsery: City Lilacs. The prompt was to write a flash fiction piece of 144 words or less including the line ‘…city lilacs release their sweet, wild perfume then bow down, heavy with rain.’ from the poem City Lilacs by Helen Dunmore
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Did you kiss me
Our lips touch
The briefest interlude
Of souls embraced
Did you kiss me
With eyes closed
The better to feel you
With the sensitive skin of a smile
Did you kiss me
Invite my tongue
To taste the taster of you
Lick and swallow until I am gone
Did you kiss me
Or did my imagination run away
With the desire
In this embrace?
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Remember my name
When the birds call in the morning
The sun shines on the spot where I used to lay
Remember the night
And passion's flame
Burning desire and all that came
Remember me
For I forgot myself, with you.
Remember my name
In the scent of the sheets
In places we used to meet
In the darkness without light
In the light of the sun
The moon’s reflection
For I am lost without you
Remember my name
That once was yours
Cast from your lips
Now cast from your sight
Remember it when you cry out
In the emptiness
In a crowd
And you look around
For I am gone, and so are you.
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The entrance of the night. The beginning of the end of day, where those in the light prepare to lay, and those of the night begin to play. Usher in the darkness, the black and the gloom. Celebrate with fire red light, red, orange and purple. Say goodbye to the day.
Come with me my love. A new world to explore. Your senses will be dulled while others expand with a roar. Close your eyes and let your mind see all that you missed during the day. The night calls, the silence falls, feel your sense slip away.
Shadows creep with the dusk. Bright eyes shine brighter still. The absence of light during midnight has yet to blanket the land. The sun still has yet to yield. Call out to the moon. Welcome her mystery, her reflected gaze. The sun is about to sleep until the breaking of a new day.
Some see dusk as the abandoning of hope. Of light slipping away. We see dusk as time afloat. What mischief will be done today?
Tiffany is stuck at home during the summer because of the pandemic. She can’t see her boyfriend and a girl has needs. Sexting can only satisfy so much. Her old high school friend is home from school; maybe she can help keep the boredom away. Who doesn’t like surprises, especially when they’re shared between friends?
A Shared Surprise is an erotic short story that explores what happens when a secret is exposed. Enjoy A Shared Surprise now.
Oh cum ye! Oh cum ye! Cum for me baby!
Don’t be silent, scream out loud!
Let the neighbors hear when I go down.
Cry out to higher powers, grip the sheets
When they get soaked, just let them be.
Open your mouth, let me in!
It doesn’t matter the time of night
When we stop or we begin
Hold me tonight, squeeze me tight
I’m gonna get loud, you cummin with me
Don’t be calm, let yourself go
Who’s my sexy girl? Who’s my dirty hoe?
C’mon girl let the world know.
You’re no virgin, you’re no child
What we do is very much adult
It ain’t mild, it’s spicy as hell
A little rough, a little wild
By the end you’ll sleep well
You’re my heaven, you’re my peace
Stay with me in between the holidays
Don’t be silent! Scream it loud!
I want to make you shake
Streams of cum squirt out, making me proud.
Sarah and Mike’s lives can get stressful with three kids. Having three kids stuck in the house during quarantine pretty much guarantees it. During a big fight things get heated … in more ways than one. Find out what happens After the kids are put to Bed. Steamy, rough and passionate.
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